Recently, a friend of mine purchased a new car. I didn't agree with his actions as he always
makes bad financial decisions. I have
tried to advice and guide him but yet he does what he wants to do regardless of
the circumstances he gets himself into. During the recent conversation I
decided to just respect the decision he had made and give feedback to support
him with this car purchase. Two days
later he was having buyer’s remorse and I responded to him in a positive manner
although my thought process was “I told you so”. I have decided that the relationship is more
to be valued than me continuing to state how I feel about his decisions. At the end of the day they are his decisions
and he is the one that has to continue to face them until he is ready to be
financially stable. I can respect him
but it doesn't mean I have to agree with him.
Yesterday, we were talking and he noticed that I was not commenting. I was providing eye contact, nodding and he
said I would simply state I understand.
That kept an argument from stirring over something that really doesn't matter
in day but I was able to listen to him vent about his circumstances. It’s too easy to disagree with someone. It’s too easy to say if you had listened to
me you wouldn't be in the circumstance.
Yet, at the same time it is not respectful and a way to further build a
relationship if you are putting your friends down. Instead I will choose to listen and
watch. People at times have to learn the
hard way.
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